Navigating Life’s Relationships and Lessons

The ebbs and flows of life. Some people are meant to be with us for a lifetime and others, just for a short time and unfortunately, we don’t get to choose which time they’re with us for.

Friendships, relationships regardless of where or why these people come into our life. There’s a lesson to be learned. There’s feelings to be felt and some of those feelings are felt incredibly deep, a friendship doesn’t necessarily mean it will last forever. And sometimes in the throes of life that’s when it feels like it’s falling apart. But really in the big picture. Those puzzle pieces that feel like they’re falling apart, are perhaps finding their place so that they can fit together perfectly and the way it was always meant to be.

The first five years of the twenty twenties for me, was a deep deep growth opportunity where I literally felt the depths of the lows , the highs of the wonderful times.

As someone who has always been emotional and sensitive, I used to hide it, it was something I was ashamed of it wasn’t to be heard it wasn’t to bother anyone else. It was for me to deal with and not to burden anyone else. Its often too easy, people sink even harder and even quicker, there will be a time that you think you’re okay, and you’re think you’re doing all you need to do, and unfortunately you’re literally just skimming the surface.

Because you’re worrying too much about what they need or he/she needs. Or she said or he said, when really all that matters deep down truly is my mental health. First my physical health, mental and my emotional health, it’s all intertwined, and if I’m not feeling my best; My cup cannot overflow to help anyone else feel their or be their best.

Major life lessons were learned the past 5 years. Not only of aligning with my truth but also living my truth being an alignment hearing myself, and quieting the outside voices. It’s easy for people to quickly say if you need anything. Let me know I’m there for you always when really and truly in the big picture, it may not happen, it probably won’t happen. So, you need to be okay with that. You need to be okay with the fact that you have no control over what anyone else does or says and their choices are theirs.

There isn’t an ounce in me that is ashamed or afraid to say that within the past five years , those five years I not only watched my husband sink, I watched my son and daughter. All for different but also similar reasons. All awhile, I was focused on needing to take care of them and to take care of our household. Need in to keep everything normal of what our new normal could be.

As I work on honestly, shifting out of fight or flight and into a trust into a healing light bravery. That, although, the past 5 years were very rocky, were very unpredictable. Took me to depths. To lean in, learning to trust me and my intuition fully and complete. That is my biggest lesson out of the past 5 years, from 2020 to 2024. That is exactly what I learned. And even though I know I will have my moments, there will still be tears. There will still be anger and growth opportunities. It’s what I can do to move myself forward to rid myself of this ‘weight’. That’s exactly what it feels like. I’m getting a visual of a weight. A boat anchor, that’s sinking down into the sand and the longer you leave it there, the deeper it sinks.

Gently give yourself a pull and shake off, you deserve it.