New Moon Cloud of Darkness

The more in tune I become with myself the more I realize just how connected our energy is — especially with relation to the moon!

The other day I was tested – in a very big, close to my heart and wallet, way. My most used camera lens fell off my camera. Literally fell off while I was using it. Thankfully the glass was ok. The mounting ring was not. Upon speaking with my camera manufacturer I learned my less than 10 year old lens was no longer serviceable... photogs let that sink in and you will feel my deep heart felt emotion which resulted in great big, fat alligator tears.

The rest of the day continued with a mix of emotions – however by the end of the day I went home to our nest, my husband continued work on our new mudroom and laundry room (that I am eagerly awaiting) and I admired the awesome size of the utility closet he finished framing in! Yup thats my happiness at this stage of my life… I am SUPER stoked for my closet so my vacuum, norwex broom/mop, my tool box, dog food and a variety of other odds and sods will finally have a true “home”! The virgo in me is patiently waiting to get organizing!

Before bed I meditated. I slept well, slept until almost when my alarm went off, meditated, did my daily greatness journal and read a couple lessons in A Course In Miracles. I then got up and started getting ready for the day and was hit with literally a cloud of darkness. It was dark, dreary and just blah outside. No defining reason why but the energy felt very thick, heavy and sad. Even as my day went on, my energy felt almost stagnant in my body. At lunch I took some time to meditate again. Checked my chakra’s and my Solar Chakra was blocked, it actually took some time to clear before I could begin to feel relief. I literally was feeling like I was a sponge the day before and sucked up all the negative energy from everyone around me and it just threw me for a loop today.

I googled “new moons 2019” and learned there is a new moon happening this month, Friday this week actually!

April 2019 | doTERRA Essential Oils with Pam

March certainly went out like a lion as April was welcomed with a crisp, cool sunlit morning!

Every single month when my doTERRA Promotions email arrives I feel like a kid at Christmas! Our monthly wellness box is a part of our daily life to support our physical and emotional health as well as cleaning ourselves, our homes, clean facial and body care, even laundry!

Spring is on its way – eventually it will be here! The birds and the bee’s will soon be getting busy! Many of us are sniffling, coughing and teary, unable to enjoy the change in the seasons… until now! Breathe / Easy Air is the FREE Product of the Month! Meaning you simply place your monthly wellness order for at least 125PV (product value) by the 15th and this will be added to your order for free.

Breathe / Easy Air

doTERRA Breathe is a remarkable blend of essential oils including Laurel Leaf, Peppermint, Eucalyptus, Melaleuca, Lemon, Cardamom, Ravintsara, and Ravensara. doTERRA Breathe maintains feelings of clear airways and easy breathing while minimizing the effects of seasonal threats. doTERRA Breathe can be applied topically to the chest, back, or bottom of feet, or diffused at nighttime to calm the senses and promote a restful sleep.

Easy Air/Breathe is energetically known as The Oil of Breath. This blend supports the feelings of grief and pain. Not breathing properly, deep enough, holding your breath, not allowing emotions to fully process and release. The respiratory blend emotionally has positive properties of feeling loved, supportive, receiving, open, healing, solace and embracing life!

Uses

  • Diffuse, inhale directly from palms, or rub on chest or feet when seasonal and environmental threats are high.
  • Use when outdoors to minimize the effects of seasonal threats.
  • Diffuse at bedtime for a restful environment. 

TriEase Softgels – Save 10% US Warehouse

TriEase Softgels were developed to protect against seasonal and environmental elements and to promote a healthy respiratory system when needed most.* Each softgel contains equal parts of Lemon, Lavender, and Peppermint essential oils, known for their ability to maintain clear breathing and a healthy immune response when combined together.*

On Guard Foaming Hand Soap & 2 Dispensers – Save 10% Canadian Warehouse

This is the best and only hand soap we have used for years in our house. I have 2 in our kitchen – 1 at each sink, 1 in each bathroom in the house, there will be one in our mudroom/laundry room when its done… its effective and super easy to use! This also lasts a while too so very cost effective, especially knowing its safe for all ages! This natural foaming hand soap helps to gently cleanse the hands.

Deep Blue Oil & Rub For FREE!

When you place a 200PV order by April 15th you will receive both Deep Blue Oil & Rub for FREE! This applies to retail (but why spend retail when you could save 25%!), wholesale and brand new customers to doTERRA! The Home Essentials Kit qualifies or any DIY Kit!!!

Plus…

Citrus Bloom Springtime Blend was RELEASED TODAY!!! I am so excited to get this blend and diffuser ;) Its just so beautiful and will look amazing in the kitchen. So I can move my Lumo to the livingroom! Citrus Bloom is the perfect combination of Greek Wild Orange, Pink Grapefruit, Lavender, Roman Chamomile, and Magnolia that creates a sweet, soothing scent to promote feelings of joy, happiness, and energy for your day.

If you aren’t yet working with anyone in doTERRA and would like to get any of these oils or starter kits connect with me, I would love to support you getting started!

(Essential Oil & Product Information Sourced from http://www.doterra.com)

Being Authentic When Other’s Aren’t

The other day I was told by a man that I “scare him”. It honestly stopped me for a second and I had to re-gather my thoughts. Also keeping in context my reason for calling… I was promised payment by a specific date by this person . My response was, “don’t make your problems my problems, you lied to me and are not true to your word” which unfortunately in this case is the cold hard facts.

On my personal development journey, being truly authentic has become a very important part of my daily life. Standing by your word, being truthful and honest. This has brought me great peace and joy to my life, however can be very challenging when dealing with other people who are not living an authentic, truthful and honest life.

However it also got me thinking about how there are still so many men (and women) out there who cannot handle a strong woman. Not only a strong woman, but a strong, confident woman who speaks her truth. I admit I haven’t always been this strong. There was a time that I allowed a man to steal a piece of my soul. I have done a lot of work to regain my strength and voice, which I am very proud of. I choose to live an authentic, honest, truthful life and it can be very challenging dealing with others who do not.

Always rise above. As much as I would love to scream and yell at this person and tell the world what a dishonest business man he is – the truth of that is, it only brings my vibe down. After all…

I allowed myself 5 min to feel the anger of being lied to – its real, whether its a man or women in your life who are not true to their word, it hurts. But then I rose back up! Working in what used to be known as a “man’s industry” this isn’t the first time Ive encountered this. Regardless of who the person is – saying I “scare him” is a cowards response to dealing with the truth and I do not lower myself to cowards.

How to Rise Above Unauthentic People

  • Play Binaural Beats – ““Binaural beats” are a specific kind of sound that can shape your brain activity to boost your concentration, enhance your creativity, and improve your mood. Listening to binaural beats is a free, safe, and increasingly popular way to help maintain good mental health.” (Source) Here is a great one –> Completely Clear Subconscious Negativity with Binaural Beats & Isochronic Tones
  • Oil Up Buttercup – Did you know essential oils are very high frequency and can help raise your vibration when used! I keep a bottle of diluted Frankincense on my desk and this is a time it comes in very handy! No matter what oils you have handy, get them on you and you will begin to feel yourself begin to turn around.
  • Meditation – This is a beautiful practice to get into daily no matter who or what age you are. It helps calm the brain, re-align your thoughts and raise your consciousness.
  • Journal – We all have feelings and lets be honest if someone truly rubs you the wrong way (in an emotional sense) this can be upsetting, especially if you are someone who is living an authentic, honest life. Journaling can help release these feelings onto paper so they are no longer swirling around in your head.
  • Be Confident – There may be times that you have to stand your ground and be very firm. Years ago we had a male elderly customer who was not very respectful to women at all. After being rude to two of my female co-workers one too many times, I very firmly told him that if he could not respect the women in our office, we would not be doing any more business with him and asked him (and his wife) to please leave our office. If you allow yourself to be vulnerable to these bully’s they will continue to treat you this way.
  • Avoid Energy Vampires – Continue living in your truth – follow your heart, do not let anyone drag you down or lower your vibration. Energy vampires like to blame everyone else for their problems and want to bring you down to their lower frequency. “Hurt people, hurt people”. The work they need to do is within themselves and no one but them, can help them. Their actions, lies etc are a direct reflection of them – not you!
  • Eat Healthy and Sleep Sound – When our body and brains are fueled by healthy food and we are well rested, we are naturally stronger to block or avoid negativity or energy vampires from getting into our personal space and when we are affected by energy vampires, we can more easily bounce back to where we need to be!
  • Live In The Here and Now – Leave everything in the past and live in the now. Dwelling on anything in the past, or what you should have said or did, will bring you further down. The past is in the past, look to the future. Be grateful. Take responsibility for your own life.
  • Trust Your Intuition – That feeling in your gut that you get when you are nervous or scared, can also happen with people in general. Its unfortunate but there is a lot of people out there who live day to day in lies. If this is something you want to repell from your life, learn to trust your gut instinct.

Oils and Books For A Better YOU!

Essential Oils are so much more than just something that smells nice! They are incredible for your health – physically and emotionally. Many of the oils I use, I now trust my intuition to guide me to which oils I need. This is how I choose my oils for what I wear for the day as well as any we use for bedtime back rubs and also for cooking!

The Oils I have been using to support and continue with my personal development and growth journey this year are:

  • Balance – The Oil of Grounding (Grounding blend)
  • Bergamot – The Oil of Self Acceptance
  • Breathe – The Oil of Breath (Respiratory blend)
  • Cedarwood – The Oil of Community
  • Citrus Bliss – The Oil of Creativity (Invigorating blend)
  • Clary Sage – The Oil of Clarity and Vision
  • Console – The Oil of Consolation (Comforting blend)
  • Copaiba – The Oil of Unveiling
  • Deep Blue – The Oil of Surrendering Pain (Soothing blend)
  • DigestZen/ZenGest – The Oil of Digestion (Digestive blend)
  • Douglas Fir – The Oil of Generational Wisdom
  • Elevation – The Oil of Joy (Joyful blend)
  • Forgive – The Oil of Forgiving (Renewing blend)
  • Frankincense – The Oil of Truth
  • Geranium – The Oil of Love and Trust
  • Hope – The Oil of Overcoming
  • Jasmine – The Oil of Sexual Purity and Balance
  • Lemon – The Oil of Focus
  • Lemongrass – The Oil of Cleansing
  • Lime – The Oil of Zest for Life
  • Litsea – The Oil of Manifestation
  • Tea Tree – The Oil of Energetic Boundaries
  • Neroli – The Oil of Shared Purpose and Partnership
  • On Guard – The Oil of Protection (Protective blend)
  • Past Tense – The Oil of Relief (Tension blend)
  • Patchouli – The Oil of Physicality
  • Peace – The Oil of Peace (Reassuring blend)
  • Peppermint – The Oil of a Buoyant Heart
  • Petitgrain – The Oil of Ancestry
  • Rose – The Oil of Divine Love
  • Rosemary – The Oil of Knowledge and Transition
  • Serenity – The Oil of Tranquility (Restful blend)
  • Slim and Sassy/Smart and Sassy – The Oil of Inner Beauty (Metabolic blend)
  • Siberian Fir – The Oil of Aging and Perspective
  • Tangerine – The Oil of Cheer and Creativity
  • Whisper – The Oil of Femininity
  • White Fir – The Oil of Generational Healing
  • Wild Orange – The Oil of Abundance
  • Wintergreen – The Oil of Surrender

Here are some additional oils that can help you embrace your true you and most of all, your inner child

  • Black Pepper – The Oil of Unmasking
  • Cilantro – The Oil of Releasing Control
  • Clove – The Oil of Boundaries (this is in On Guard)
  • Coriander – The Oil of Integrity
  • Cypress – The Oil of Motion & Flow
  • Fennel – The Oil of Responsibility (this is in DigestZen/ZenGest)
  • Grapefruit – The Oil of Honoring The Body (this is in Smart and Sassy)
  • Thyme – The Oil of Releasing and Forgiving
  • Ylang Ylang – The Oil of The Inner Child

Some of my most used essential oil diffuser blends within the past month are (2 drops each):

  • Citrus Bliss and Clary Sage (Invigorate and Emotional Support)
  • Wild Orange, Peppermint and Rosemary (Invigorate – Wake Up The Brain)
  • Smart and Sassy and Rosemary (Invigorate – Wake Up The Brain)
  • Cedarwood and On Guard (Sleep)
  • Cedarwood, On Guard, Petitgrain and Breathe (Sleep)
  • Wild Orange and Spearmint (3 drops Wild Orange and 1 Spearmint)
  • On Guard and Breathe (Immune Defense, Cleansing, Sleep)
  • Balance and Arborvitae (Grounding and Cleansing)
  • Bergamot and Arborvitae (Uplifting and Grounding)
  • Lemongrass & Siberian Fir/White Fir (Cleansing)

If you are ready to dig into some personal development for yourself I can highly recommend what I have found to be truly inspirational within the past year!

  • On January 1st I committed to a new daily routine of writing in my dailygreatness journal planner. Its amazing how much information is up there swirling around in my head. Actually this is maybe one of the reasons I love the movie ‘Inside Out’ so much! ;) The daily practice morning and night of thinking and writing about what we are greatful for begins massive shifts in our mind, which then affects our daily life. I use my dailygreatness as well as a plain lined paper journal to get my thoughts out when I need to, but also a handy resource to look back on.
  • Joel Osteen is an inspirational man who is the preacher of a non-denominational church in Texas. He was recommended to me by a friend, to put it on in the background and just listen. Every single message that he was preaching about, I could feel in my heart and relate to in my life in someway. His message, is truly for everyone and I found resonates with my spiritual heart and soul.

“There’s no greater feeling than being able to help people rise higher and overcome something and feel better about themselves. I think that we’re all made to help others, to lift people up.”- Joel Osteen

  • Gabby Bernstein, I was inspired by a friend to pick up this book. One I had on my list for quite a while and after reading I can truly say is an incredible mind opening inspiration. The Universe Has Your Back was truly life shifting for me. This is the first book that I actually read every single page of since I would say early high school. This book is what has reignited a lost part of me, that I now know exactly when I let it slip. To rediscover WHO I am, reconnect with who I was. Learning of the struggles Gabby over came in her life to become the person she is today, wherever you are at in your life journey you can find reassurance, comfort, inspiration and hope with this book to know that life challenges aren’t sent to break us, they are sent to help us grow and become the person we are meant to be who can also live without judgment. Love in love, not in fear. I personally find Gabby’s voice reassuring, very real and raw but also supportive and encouraging. She truly has a way with words. I am excited to read more of her books and love listening to her meditations!
  • Sarah Prout I have been following for a about 3 years now. She is a soft natured spiritual teacher who literally went from rags to riches when she rose above domestic abuse and trusted herself. Her story and mindset are inspirational. She recently came out with a book, Dear Universe. I was lucky to receive an electronic advance readers copy of this book and have enjoyed some of her mini meditations. Even something as simple as, “Dear Universe, May I release any feelings of negativity from my body and heart. I now forgive the past and put it behind me. I now move forward into a future of honesty, integrity and joy. So be it, so it is.” Can truly shift the mind from negative to positive, the more you do this, the more in tune with YOU, you will become!
  • Rachel Hollis, can I be honest and admit she was someone who at first I was like, nope I do not resonate with her at all… until I read the books ;) She is real life. Honestly, everything from being a woman, wife, mom and everything in between. Refreshing to read a woman who is not afraid to step up and make it be known. To be completely who she was meant to be, with zero apologies. I read Girl, Wash Your Face and enjoyed it, however when I was lucky enough to receive an advance copy of Girl, Stop Apologizing, this book truly hit my heart and soul. I began being so much more mindful of how often I was apologizing in my daily life, even for things that did not need an apology, like replying back to someone who emailed or messaged me “Sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner…” when in truth, I didn’t get back to them sooner because I was dealing with or doing other things or maybe quite honestly I chose to not do anything – either of which is OK and does not require an apology at all.
  • Dr Shefali is a brilliant woman who I happened upon after watching a fun video on Facebook. I was busy in the kitchen and an interview with Oprah began playing. She was talking about her newest book, The Awakened Parent. I love her honest, natural approach to consciously parenting. Rising above yelling and trying to control every little thing with our children to move to true happiness where everyone learns patience, to be empowered and also independent as a strong, confident person. I have watched hours of Dr Shefali speak and her parenting style in alignment with how I wanted to be living. It can be frustrating being a parent with those responsibilities alone, also add in the daily of keeping up with the house, meals, laundry, and work. A few tweaks with what you learn from Dr Shefali is a beautiful shift in parenting for parents and kids! What this has taught me is its not just about being an awakened parent, its about living a conscious life.
  • A Course In Miracles(ACIM) is a unique spiritual self-study program designed to awaken us to the truth of our oneness with God and Love.” We are able to grow as a person ‘by learning to heal all of our relationships through the inspired practice of forgiveness’. Although I do not consider myself a religious person, I am a spiritual person who completely believes in God. I have my belief’s but I personally do not need a specific church or religion to dictate what I will believe in. What I like about this book is that it really is re-training your mind to reset.

“The purpose of the workbook is to train your mind in a systematic way to a different perception of everyone and everything in the world. The exercises are planned to help you generalize the lessons, so that you will understand that each of them is equally applicable to everyone and everything you see.
The overall aim of the exercises is to increase your ability to extend the ideas you will be practicing to include everything. This will require no effort on your part. The exercises themselves meet the conditions necessary for this kind of transfer.”
(W.In.4,7)

  • The Gift of a Happy Mother written by Rebecca Eanes is the most recent book I just finished. I honestly have a stack to read through and am so excited. I am grateful to have received an advance copy of this book. Rebecca speaks from the heart in a way any mother can not just understand, but relate to and feel confident in following their own heart when raising their babies in a healthy conscious way, while supporting themselves as well! All throughout the book I found myself being able to relate with the author at various ages and stages of parenthood. A reassuring voice, opportunity to grow and connect with children, parents and real life. Someone to relate to but also learn from. This is a warm hearted, easy read that I also highly recommend.
  • Another fav is Dr Mariza’s newest book, The Essential Oils Hormone Solution. Myself having real life success of natural weight loss by supporting my body in a holistic way I was excited to receive this book and dive into it! So many resources, suggestions and options for any hormonal women’s health issue you could imagine. Dr Mariza has real life experience as well with being challenged with her health. Highly recommend for all of the ladies!

Curious… now that Ive shared what has been near and dear to my heart on this personal growth journey (which… psssst is a part of our daily life – we just need to make time for it ;) ) what books or resources do you love and would recommend?


Consciously Cooking & Cleaning

Tis the season when many of us are thinking spring cleaning. For our homes and some of us our bodies. Ive been getting a lot of questions about how we made a shift so I thought I would share with you!

It takes work and commitment to CHANGE! If you do not want to see a change, you simply wont. Especially if you do not commit to making changes –> Lifestyle Changes!

We are learning every single day of ways to improve our living, eating, sleeping, well-being etc. Its not a one size fits all nor one magic pill. Life is filled with ups and downs, bumps and turns where you have to learn to adjust and alter your route at times.

Cooking and cleaning in our home now, is completely different than it was 5 years ago. We are all learning how to consciously cook and clean – with the mama’s lead and direction.

There was a commercial on TV the other night and honestly I wasn’t paying attention until my husband began making fun of it saying ‘oh yes if you say I need this then obviously I need this…’ It was about a man having fungus on his toe and the commercial saying “the ONLY option is you need to get a prescription…”. This is the world we live in where the majority of people believe what is broadcast on TV to be gospel. Now I am not a religious person, I am however a spiritual believer in God. I choose to have my beliefs based on my opinion. Much like how we live in our home now. If I listened to everything that was MARKETED to us that we need this and there is no other way… my health would still very much be in jeopardy!

Consciously cooking and cleaning is being fully aware of what you are putting in your mouth, in your home and on your body. Im not talking about being all scientific about things either. Im talking about doing the research to actually KNOW what you are using in your home simply by looking at the ingredients. Trusting your gut and nose. I am now extremely sensitive to the smell of chemicals and fake things.

I know that living with PCOS – which affects 1 in every 10 women – there are foods, chemicals, toxins that negatively impact my body and life. This is the same for living an ADHD life. My health has also been impacted by Endometriosis and Hypothyroidism. PCOS, Hypothyroidism and Endometriosis are endocrine illnesses. The common factor is ENDOCRINE DISRUPTORS. Once I learned what this is, I began cleaning house – literally!

Ladies (and men) its OK to say NO to something that you have always used or eaten. Its ok to change the way you do things – you do not have to explain to anyone! Men… you need to take notice as well because your “boys” are also affected by endocrine disruptors! Especially key if you are trying to conceive.

Consciously cooking and cleaning is choosing to put your health first. Ive heard many people complain about how expensive it is… Do you realize how expensive illness is? Many people do not until its too late.

Did you know that our gut health is directly tied to our mental health and wellness! It totally is.

You can choose to make changes now. Our bodies need water, sleep and healthy nutrition. They do not need chemicals and toxins. You do not need chemicals and toxins to clean your home. I can say this because Im living it. We have not used a chemical cleaner in our home in over 3 years – and actually it may even be longer. There is a time for prescription medications – but not every time. Super bugs are building up resistance to antibiotics – these chemicals and toxins many people use i their daily life are assisting with this.

A mentor gave a great example in a recent presentation about health and wellness, she shared a commercial about how if you have zantac you can eat or drink whatever you want because it will “deal” with the indigestion you get… Much like many over the counter medications and many prescriptions that actually only deal with the symptoms and not the actual root cause of the problem – which in this case is WHY and WHAT are you eating that you are experiencing these issues?

The other issue is in our daily life we simply are not getting the vitamins, minerals and omega’s that our body requires to operate in a healthy way. Trust me I used to think that I didn’t need vitamins or that taking 1 great big horse pill and then peeing out bright yellow pee was sufficient to say I was “being healthy”… Its not!

Consciously cooking and cleaning is choosing to take control of YOUR life. Choosing to be aware of what you are eating and using. If you want to see changes in your life, you need to choose to make the changes required otherwise you will continue going around and around on the merry go round not getting anywhere.

Do the research. Don’t just take my word or your aunts, mom, grama, or especially the TV. Do the work yourself. Decide what YOU want and perhaps need to see happen in your life. Then get to work. My monthly wellness box that arrives every month from doTERRA is worth every single dollar. Its built into our budget. The money I used to spend at the grocery store or pharmacy on shampoo, conditioner, lotion, hair gel, cold and flu products, headache products, muscle rub, all purpose cleaner, window cleaner, dish soap, dishwasher detergent, digestive upset, pain medication… I moved this over to choosing to buy clean. Choosing to invest in myself and my family. Am I saying you can only be healthy by using doTERRA, nope as I said above you need to do the research yourself. I personally have found great success and results by using plant based essential oils which are the highest quality in the world and clean products infused with oils. The quality and ingredients matter.

Last night we had home made pizza for dinner. It was SO good! I personally do not use white flour, bread, sugar so I adapt any all purpose flour and white sugar recipes for whole wheat and honey. Why!? Because this is what is healthy for not just my body, but also for my family. Does everyone understand our reasoning, nope! Do I care, nope! I also make our own dish soap with liquid castile soap and our On Guard Cleaning Concentrate. It suds up as the sink is filling and then the suds disappear. Its still very effective. The only challenge Ive had is if something is really greasy I will add soap directly onto the item and then clean :)

Consciously adapting your life to choosing health. Choosing healthy living over convenience and cost. However, as we have chosen to purchase our healthy products from doTERRA, when I place our order every month (which is whatever I want it to be) we can earn free products as well as points. I am currently earning 30% back on everything I purchase. So for example every month I purchase our supplements, for myself and the kids, my hubby is still adjusting his lifestyle and thats ok! Most times our points we earn are used on oils which we use every single day in our home to support our health, cleanse the air and they smell amazing ;)

However, don’t just take my word for it. Sit down and think about your life and health.

  • How do you feel?
  • How well do you sleep?
  • Do you have any health issues?
  • Do your kids have any health issues?
  • Are you or anyone in your family over weight?
  • Do you have headaches?
  • Do you drink enough water?
  • What are your meals like?

Part of consciously cooking and cleaning is also being aware that as humans in this “busy” world we live in – we NEED downtime. I don’t care who you are, for our mental health stability everyone needs their own space, whatever that may be, and honor themselves that they need to rest and relax their brain. Some ways I love to do this is meditation and reading. Reading is one thing I lost and have found again to enjoy.

“The Darkness Is Always There”

Got a call from my mom this morning, “lets take the kids to the movies”, my man child was heading to hockey vs the parents as their last hockey day for the 2018/19 season. So the girls got ready and headed out of town to the movies!

The movie we went to see was Wonder Park. I had never even seen a preview so had no clue what to expect, I was just hoping it would be good.

The room got dark and the movie previews began. The cutest puppy running across the screen. Within second my eyes were full of tears. A Dog’s Journey pulled on all of my heart strings. Check it out, grab the kleenex before you do. A beautiful journey of how a dog literally grows up with the same boy, man, father, grandfather and then grand-daughter. As a dog mom I truly appreciated this, with the various dogs we have had throughout our lives. When our boy Elwood passed, we had already agreed we would get another dog so I contacted the breeder and let her know we would like a yellow boy. My husband had his heart set on the one dad who was in the kennel, he wanted one of his pups because he reminded him of the dog they had growing up. I contacted the breeder and let her know of getting on the list and not even a week later she emailed us and let us know our boy was born. Becker was born on July 8th, our Elwood passed on July 2nd. Our girls Tara and Hazel, Kelsey is an incredible blend of both girls, of course with her own personality, but honestly their traits are so incredibly similar. My girl snuggled up with me when she saw the tears begin falling. I used to worry about hiding all my emotions from my kids, more so when they were a lot younger, its so healthy though for kids to know emotions are normal and something that you have to allow your body, mind and soul to feel. You need to allow expression vs suppressing how you are feeling. I was full out crying. But it was totally ok. I completely appreciated my daughters support, her putting her head on my shoulder. She has such a sensitive soul. We have always encouraged our kids to feel their emotions, use words to explain and figure out whats going on inside. Sometimes its tough even for adults to process how they feel, think of a child, who this is all totally new to. We need to model this for them, that its ok. Of course keeping it child friendly too. What you may say to a 12 year old you wouldn’t say to a 3 year old.

The movie, Wonder Park was completely new, I had never saw a preview and it unfolded incredibly. My take on the movie – which you will also see in the trailer is… when you loose your childhood magic – the darkness sets in. Always hold onto that magic of being a child. When life happens we begin to harden, hold in emotions, lash out at others, financial stress, family and house life etc… This can happen at all ages. Regardless of who you are, what you do or what you have. No one person has immunity from feeling darkness. Children and adults. The movie displays quite a moving display of losing the magic in your life and darkness sneaking in. Turning the light on your darkness and finding the magic and happiness again. But the darkness will always be there, this is a new part of you that is nothing to be ashamed of but more aware of. Nothing wrong at all with why or how the darkness happened. Once June began to put the hints together she was able to stand strong against the darkness and find that magic and joy again. It truly was moving. I absolutely loved the message. A growth and development journey.

Always be YOU! The true you – not who you “think” you should be or who someone else thinks or tells you you should be or do. Sit with it, WHO ARE YOU? Why are you so special? Hint – we all are in our very own way ;) This is something that was hard for me. Hard to allow myself to think of just me. I don’t exactly know why but it made me feel selfish. Especially after having kids. I spent money on the kids, not on me. When I bought my first DSLR Camera, I was SO excited, I saved for it. It was expensive but I researched and had pro’s and con’s lists, received valuable feedback from my uncle and I made the leap. Best leap ever! Point and shoot up to a DSLR – whoa the quality, speed… with kids – AH Mazing! I was stoked but yet, I pushed myself back down, not wanting to feel like I had to justify HOW I got this camera. In a previous post I briefly talked about being a working mom. Something Ive always been, our work life has always been a part of our life, its integrated in our day to day. I am also grateful to be a working mom, this was one of my reasonings, however also not why I justify how I budget and spend my money. There are some things in life that are a priority to me and something I truly want, so I enjoy working and for me I appreciate contributing to the family, especially when I also appreciate quality and value. So even though I worked hard to be able to buy the DSLR camera, I still felt bad about it or that I didn’t deserve it…

The personal growth journey is real! Very real let me tell you. When you choose to step into the light, yup the darkness is always there. No matter what your darkness is or was, its always there. But when you step into the light – your life truly shifts. The gratitude you previously felt, magnifies.

When I heard this, “The Darkness Is Always There” it all began to make sense. If we all have felt darkness, who is anyone to judge anyone else’s darkness. We all process life, circumstances, healing etc differently. What might be easy for you, is challenging for them. The more we can step back from judgment, by focusing on our own life and simply living in love vs living in hate. People who spread hate and hurt – are hurt and refusing to accept that. Even people dealing with various challenges can still be good people – when they live in love. A beautiful reminder from another fav of mine, Gabby Bernstein with The Judgment Detox. I began reading this while on our the Disney Cruise – its an interactive read. Not one that was an “easy vacation read”. So its next on my list after I finish Energetic Boundaries by Cyndi Dale. Its so absolutely fascinating how the energy of our entire life from the time of conception, forms us into who we are today and how we can shift that and change patterns.

The darkness is always there.

Let your light shine!

Be proud.

The darkness is always there.

It helped bring out the very best in you!


The Art of Integrity

Are you living a life of Integrity?
Personally I believe there is an art of integrity, its more than just showing you are a good person – its BEING a good person. Actions speak louder than words.
Integrity is defined as:

1. adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.
2. the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished: to preserve the integrity of the empire.
3. a sound, unimpaired, or perfect condition: the integrity of a ship’s hull.
(Dictionary.com)
This past week I experienced the complete opposite of Integrity. Sometimes in life we let what’s outside, get in and it wreaks havoc. I am a very honest person who holds her values and integrity close to my heart. I was reminded, ‘what you put out to the world, comes back’. A very important reminder of just how important it is to live an honest and integral life. Unfortunately this got the better of me and I was experiencing a horrible headache. To support myself through this I of course went to my oils!
I knew I had to take some very deep breaths and
We’ve always teach our children to trust “professionals” – teachers, doctors, nurses, police officers, fire fighters – all those with roles within our community whom you should be able to trust – that is their job. However on the flip side, when these people are not true to living an honest and integral life how can we as parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles advise this next generation that yes you can trust them when they aren’t trustworthy themselves.

Our Children’s Education

It really fired me up reading an article posted in the very early morning on Friday about our children’s education and how the rest of their elementary and high school days can be affected.

This lit a fire in me. As a mom but more so, an ADHD Mom. The article title…

Ford gov’t lifting class cap sizes, allowing parents to opt out of new sex-ed curriculum

Is slightly misleading… because its waaaay more than this!

“Ontario NDP’s education critic Marit Stiles said she believes the changes will reduce resources and overwhelm teachers, hurting one-on-one attention teachers provide students.

“I think what we’re going to see unfortunately are fewer teachers ultimately in our classes, that was quite clear coming out of this announcement,” Stiles said after the news conference.

“There are going to be fewer teachers in the classes, less one-on-one time for our students, fewer other education workers. The education system is also about educational assistants, ECE’s, caretakers, all those other people that make our classes safe and supportive for students.””

“Gone are:

$235 million to fund special education to support children in need and at-risk students (included as part of Local Priorities Funding)

$63.6 million for extra staffing (Cost Adjustment Allocation)

$10 million in staffing for education workers (Human Resource Transition Supplement)

“The loss of this funding means a loss of the people on the front line – people who provide direct support and services to students,” said Walton.
She pointed out another significant cut that was revealed separately today: the government’s changes to the funding ratios for early childhood educators (ECEs). “The ratio changes will force school boards to choose between hiring ECEs or making cuts elsewhere.”
(Source https://cupe.on.ca/governments-changes-to-education-includ…/)

As a parent of two amazing kids and living an ADHD lifestyle, this announcement is devastating. Already, prior to this announcement our children were not receiving enough one on one teaching assistance. Even children with an IEP who have a real identified need.

The school system is nothing like when I went to school, which really and truly was not that long ago. However now so much more is expected of children. What used to be play based learning is now homework or sitting still for way to long and expecting kids to learn more and more than we ever were expected to at the same ages. School starts so much earlier which was to be a blessing for parents, a saviour with daycare costs. Rather it was another way to bombard our kids with what they should already know and push more at them.

Dont get me wrong, I am thankful for my kids education and the fact that they have this opportunity.

However… maybe just maybe are we pushing too much on them too soon.

Kids are under so much stress at such young ages. Kids are pushed through school without fully knowing or understanding what they should know. Children (tweens, teens and young adults) are committing suicide at an alarming rate.

Maybe some don’t see the direct correlation but I do.

Quite honestly, Ive looked into home schooling. But I know, I alone am not able to provide the education my children deserve and require. We are active parents in our children’s learning whether its text book or life learning. Life learning truly is one of the best – hands on, real life learning. Even something as simple as baking in the kitchen. When you double a recipe you double the measurements. Cutting things for renovations (which we have done plenty of) you measure twice cut once.

As I began writing this and when I read the article yesterday, I was so angry. However I realize anger will not amount to anything. As wonderful as our kids school is, I recognize the school and teachers can only do so much. As more and more funding is taken from our children, we have to work with what we have while strengthening our voices. Our children need us to advocate for them. I used to silently sit back, not wanting to draw much attention to the fact that we legit live an ADHD Life and are finding our way through of what works for us and what doesn’t. Getting angry wont solve anything. Being REAL however… sure I am just one voice but real life living means living your best life. If our children have these high expectations on them, which lets be real, having a lot of kids in one room and expecting them all to succeed being taught the exact same way – its NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.

Our children are all different. We are all different. We need to embrace our uniqueness and see it as a positive, no room for negativity, especially when it comes to education. Children and adults all learn differently and this is something the government should be embracing – not chastising.

This is real life already affecting kids. Our school only has enough support for children with severe physical needs and are unable to provide additional support for children with academic needs. This is real life now – before these cuts were announced. Its scary, it puts so much more pressure on parents and children. Its not right but if we simply stay silent about it, nothing will change. Our voices need to be heard.

Parents I encourage you, speak up. Let your voice be heard. Be your child’s best advocate – they need you. <3

Unlock Your Happiness

My family and I just spent a few days away together. It was really interesting because I totally felt myself level up in what I now expect to be standard accomodations when we go away. I enjoy paying for value and just because something is presented with value but is a totally crazy deal – is it worth it?

When I booked the getaway I literally said – crazy deal thats awesome lets do march break there!

Now… I am grateful for the time my family had together over the past few days.

What I find really inspiring is that I truly feel like this was an opportunity of growth, to recognize that although something costs money, we enjoy the value and will spend money on quality – for us this is incredibly important. When we follow our heart and soul, we are comfortable and happy. When we go against what we really want, just to save money and get a deal, we are putting our happiness aside. Like it doesn’t matter, we will settle for less.

I want more! I used to set my happiness aside, before I realized the value of what I was putting my time, energy and money. I value quality and was quieting that in me to justify less.

I have to be completely honest, when we went on the Disney Cruise, this is where I valued up to where my heart and soul feel at home with. I quietened everyone else’s voices – some were supportive, a few critics. I listened to us – listened to what we wanted to do. Spent the money on an incredible experience. Unlocked a level of happiness in me. The experience we had with our kids was truly priceless. I am so grateful. Its helped me to reach this level of happiness that I didn’t really know I was missing, but now value so very much.

Is like I suddenly have given myself permission to enjoy the fruits of our labour. We work smart and hard. Our work is a very big part of our life, day and night. So for us to take a “break” and take time off is pretty bug for us. I used to stress when we were away, however its so smooth its truly a nice break for us both. Our lives are very tied to our work, which honestly we do love, however of course there are times. There are times in anything we encounter in life… growth opportunity! When I began taking after hours calls this was a real test to my growing abilities in creating boundaries. We have amazing customers, however some have really taught me great examples in the importance of everyone having personal and business boundaries. Over the years my business ethics and belief’s have strengthened and I am proud of where we are today.

This afternoon as we were driving home, I was thinking of our few days away. How there were so many disappointing moments, but how we actively turned it to a positive. We didn’t even really “do” much. We ate, hung out, the boys skiied while the girls had a late lunch and picked up some things for our pets haha the extent of how we do “shopping” lol.

It is these years that I remember myself as a child. These years that I know my kids are going to remember when they think back to family vacations, getaways, being together. I was lucky to get an advance copy of “The Gift of a Happy Mother”. Written by a woman, Rebecca Eanes, who I met many years ago when we were both trying to conceive our first baby. I just finished this book yesterday while on our getaway. Her chapter towards the end of the book, When Littles Become Big, hit at home for me. In the way Rebecca talk’s about the shift from being the mom whose children need her and they are always with you, to a shift of wanting more personal time, time with friends etc. A great reminder of how precious every single moment is. It helped me sink into truly being in the moment together – even when for our family that means ensuring downtime is a must. A recharge point for us that is must needed. This getaway, although did not meet our expectations, it was shifting for me.

As we drove home, passing by various houses, one reminded me of our first home, I thought of our memories there and then immediately went to our current home. My husband mentioned about our 2nd home and how thankful he was we used that as a stepping stone to where we are now. Happiness flooded me, I truly love our home. I love the location, the layout, even that it has a country address. Something I, for some reason, always wanted. I am greatful for our life, for the challenges we have been presented with to grow and for our health and happiness. A true blessing.

Unlock your happiness to truly enjoy these amazing years of your life. Its so right, time does go by fast in the big picture as a parent. So BE in the moment, follow your heart and soul for your family to be your best selves –> that brings out the best in all of you, not just one or two of you.

Mom Life | The Gift of a Happy Mother

Mom Life 😍

I’ve been LOVING reading The Gift of a Happy Mother! So grateful to have an advance copy as these words are ringing so true to my own life! 💕

“Aim for connection instead of perfection. Perfection isn’t attainable, but connection heals.”

“That’s the rule of motherhood mama’s. It’s all in passing – the hard days, the laughter filled days, the frustrating days and the fun days. Everything is temporary.”

“You can be grateful for your child but still be overwhelmed. You can be in total love, but still feel sad. Every single emotion that is swirling through you now is 100% ok.”

Grateful for these familiar words Rebecca Eanes, it is so wonderful reading about someone else’s experiences and thinking “me too!” Or “thank God it’s not just me” 😉

Mamas surround yourself with people who lift you up! Continue to educate yourself every single day by reaching within, meditating, journaling, yoga, reading, oiling up and real connection with others! Most of all… listen to your heart and soul. It knows what you really need! 💝

If you need help getting started, I can recommend some must have oils and you can order your own copy of The Gift of a Happy Motherfrom your fav book store! Rebecca has generously offered a free 30 day journal for all pre-orders! Perfect for getting you back on track to who YOU really are 🙌💕🙏🦋

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