The Real Challenge of Renovations

I love renovating and love all the renovating shows. The have been fuel for many of my inspirations as we have been transforming our house into our home!

The real challenge of renovating is fitting it into daily life. You know all the house hold “stuff” – like cooking dinner, planning meals to cook the dinner, grocery shopping to get the things you planned for the meals, laundry, kid stuff, our own down time.

This stage of reno life is the prep work that we have to get done for our framers. Its alot of physical work. I can admit with absolutely no issue at all that my body is not used to this intense of physical work. I am however very thankful for the strength I now feel in my body, that I never felt before. Even last year, I wouldn’t have been able to do what we have been doing. But I have and I am so proud of me!!!

I began feeling slightly overwhelmed last night. With things needing to be done inside, but feeling I should be out helping the husband, I was feeling slightly psyched out. This is a normal stage of reno’s. The point of absolutely no turning back but also on the brink of possibility. Its a finicky stage for energy.

I felt so blessed when I saw our friend pull in the driveway. That truly offered me the gift of time to run our son where he needed to be, pick up stuff for my husband, prepare lunch and an appetizer for later, while tidying up the kitchen right away, getting some laundry on, doing some decluttering. Things that have been on my mental to-do list and have been neglected so we could work at this phase to have our house ready.

Before I went to sleep last night, while doing my nightly journal writing, I asked for a sign that it was all going to fall into place as it should. My sign was a butterfly. I saw a beautiful butterfly in my dream last night and a beautiful butterfly photo on facebook. I remembered my sign this morning, but still wasn’t completely sure. I helped my husband for an hour before taking our son to meet his hockey team, then various stops down town, to arrive home and about to leave again and our friend arrived and when he had to leave in a couple hours another friend was able to help out – SO grateful! Kudo’s to the universe for me. Truly grateful! All in divine timing. It will all work out how its supposed to.

The real challenge of renovations is when you have to continue your day to day life as well as being in a major stage. However as we have learned, the universe works in wonderful ways. Very similarly last weekend. I wasn’t feeling the greatest on Saturday, it was rainy and very damp feeling. Hubby also had a few calls in the early afternoon so we ended up nixing until Sunday. Best decision ever. I was able to rest and oil up literally all afternoon and then Sunday we got at it and got a lot accomplished!

We will be back at it today – however feeling SO much more prepared and ready for this stage! Excited too. Following our dreams and loving every bit of our home ❤

Choose Your Hard, Or Just Live Easy

Choose your hard, or just live easy…

I used to think living in pain and discomfort was normal. Because it was normal for me, for years. As long as I can remember. Being in pain and discomfort really plays a big part in how someone also feels emotionally.

If you know my journey, you know of my health struggle, challenges and ultimately growth.

My husband and I were talking about how at times we have felt extremely challenged. We have big, beautiful dreams for our family and our home and at times we had found ourselves talking about how “hard” it was. We are still amongst renovations, albeit different kinds than we have ever done before, yes, it has been very challenging at times. But you know what looking back it’s been 1000 times strengthening, empowering, motivating for us individually and as a couple and family. I am so proud of us!

I’ve experienced a recent health challenge and when it was suggested to me to do an elimination diet to figure out what my triggers are, I was a bit of a blubbering mess! I am so thankful for my supportive husband. He gave me great advice, the best actually, because his words completely changed my perspective.

I made the decision. I jumped in the next day and told myself I would learn as I went. Which is exactly what I did. I prepared a list of foods I could and couldn’t have – the couldn’t have would list would eventually begin testing and the ones on the list were ones I actually ate. I have been on the FODMAP elimination diet for almost 3 weeks. 2 1/2 of those weeks eating exactly by the diet (grab the Monarsh FODMAP Diet app it’s worth every penny!). I began testing foods I love… garlic, onions. So far so good thankfully, I have to continue testing. This past weekend I tested wheat.

When I began this diet I straight up told my husband wheat won’t be an issue, I love bread.

I was also in pain/discomfort of some level 90% of the time. Because I legit thought that how I was feeling was normal.

Until I stopped eating the trigger foods. My gosh I feel fantastic!

This weekend however, I did not. I still powered through like I normally did and it sucked.

This weekend I tested wheat and here is what I noticed. It tasted really good. It also made me feel awful! I was so bloated, feeling blah, major discomfort. The biggest thing I noticed… I had zero “full” feeling. Zero! I could have ate every piece of bread in the house. I didn’t thankfully, but I could have! I was honestly shocked. I tested that feeling again on Sunday… same thing. At the time I didn’t realize though I was testing that feeling. It was Monday, after lunch. I ate a wrap, and experienced a similar feeling. I then realized I had began on Friday, with a late lunch with wheat. Then sandwiches on Saturday and Sunday.

Could it have been in excess, maybe. What I realized on Monday though is this isn’t how I want to feel, ever. I’ve invested in myself to live my best life. So after feeling good for an entire 2.5 weeks… I now know what feeling good, actually means!

What’s interesting is I am not upset. Yes it’s going to take some learning, thinking outside of the “normal” box. The old me would be beyond stressed. I would be so hard on myself. I didn’t love or respect my body. Until now.

It feels so good, to feel good!!!

This has reinforced even more for me… life CAN feel easy. When you feel good. I know myself when I feel good, life flows, I naturally feel so happy and appreciative. Grateful for all I have been blessed with.

Another shift in life, resulting with increased happiness. Like a new journey, slightly unknown to explore. I’m ready for it. I’m really ready to always feel good! To choose to be healthy. Choose to put me first. No longer shy back and away, not wanting to inconvenience or worry about the cost. Everyone has something in their life to deal with. What is “hard” for someone may not be the same for someone else. When I honor how I feel, focus on how I want to feel, that’s what brings true happiness.

I do not want to feel like that anymore! Tonight, as I realized the pasta my husband and I had picked out, thinking it would be ok for me, wasn’t. I wasn’t even upset. Because I was also making something I love… Chicken Parmesan! Home made, with corn flakes vs bread crumbs and a custom spice mixture after an almond flour and flax seed mix and then egg dunk with 1 drop of Basil! The “old me” would devour an entire piece and most likely some of the kids left overs too… as well as a pile of pasta. Tonight… I had 1/2 the chicken breast, some quinoa with yellow pepper and ceasar salad! Full and oh so satisfied!!! Such an awesome feeling! The over full feeling is so old!

Best part, my husband and kids have been SO supportive! I am so lucky to have them. I am so lucky they have been open to experiencing new things.

Today I googled over eating and wheat… apparently it’s a thing 🤯! Gluten for some people can cause them to overeat. Thinking back over the years, bread has always been my “comfort food”. When I was pregnant both times I lived on pizza and bread… Gluten can also cause blood sugar spikes, and then crashes. Ahhhh 💡 makes sense even more… the mid afternoon crash after lunch! Here is your sign… after the previous signs 😉!

Life isn’t hard, that’s a limiting belief that needs to be cleared. Yup we all hit roadblocks and experience challenges… when you have truly experienced your own challenges and embraced what you could positively take out of it (growth) you truly learn a new way of living and also loving others. Your compassion deepens.

Allow life to flow with ease.

Get in touch with you, whoever “you” truly is!

I’m excited for this “new” version of me. The version of what my soul was meant to live 🥰!

Live easy ✌

The Next Step | Reno Life

Its Sunday evening, one of my most enjoyed when we are all home and relaxing. The best way to start off the week!

Today we hustled and I am so proud of us for what we accomplished. Next phase of #renolife!

I’m getting much better with the unknown… mainly because its MY unknown and I’m honest with my husband and just ask. Somethings with this stage seem way overwhelming so I am learning to just trust in the process, which I can admit alot of it is unknown to me!

I feel blessed to have a husband who knows this stuff. Although he doesn’t do this anymore and this stage of the reno isn’t one he did much, he can guide me and soothe any wonders I may have!

Today was a very big step, bigger than the last big one haha. The last one was truly, ok here we go we are committed, today completely took that committment to the next level!

I am super stoked, so grateful and excited to watch this final stage of #makingourhouseahome our reality.

Comes just days after our laundry mudroom officially became that! ✌

Feeling physically exhausted tonight. Enjoyed a hot bath with epsom salts with Cedarwood, Siberian Fir and Serenity… they were in the kids bathroom! I’m feeling the exhaustion but it’s such a good feeling too. I had the energy to do something that I normally do not do. I pushed my strength to be beside my husband and work to bring this dream home of ours to our reality. I am so grateful for this man and our home.

Stay tuned for more on our transformation as the months go on… for now I’m holding off on sharing photos! I.AM.SO.EXCITED.

Being a strong futuristic thinker I absolutely love how literally every single room we have transformed in our home, has been born from our vision of our dream home, our space. Where it truly is a reflection of us! Bottom to top, top to bottom and now expansion of some sides 🤣🥰!

Two spaces left in our whole home transformation and its go time!!! 🙌

With all that said, because it was go time for us outside… not much gets accomplished inside. First rule of renos… be patient with yourself and your loved ones! Seriously it will save your sanity! What you go for to chill and relax… ramp that up! Hello Oils, Meditation, Reading, Writing, Photos… Focus on the next step, it’s so easy to get pulled too far ahead, in your head. A slight downfall as futuristic thinker, I tend to get ahead of myself especially if I allow stressful feelings in. Remember all in Divine timing. This seriously is amazing. It’s like a quick reset of your mindset. Try it the next time you are feeling stressed… think to yourself what you need to be doing in this moment, then do what needs yo be done next and remember all in Divine timing 👊!

Now Do I Have Your Attention?

I have such a great oil routine for our children, alas I tend to at times neglect myself in that routine! Alot of times while oiling the kids I will put some on me, but not all the time. I am good with getting the diffusers started in the office but admittedly I can forget nature’s true power until my body gets my attention.

The past two weeks has had our family on the go with hockey (mainly) and I had 2 events within 5 days that required me up and out of bed at, what I consider very very early, before 5am 🙈!

While at the 2nd event, our presenters had us up and moving to get our lymphatic system flowing… by mid afternoon I could feel that scratch in my throat and my nose began stuffing up!

I knew I was lacking sleep… the 1st event was absolutely amazing and worth the early morning, however the late night prior did not help. Lack of sleep is very real at negatively affecting your health, at least for me anyway!

So I’ve been oiling… alot! More than I have in a long time. You know when you get “busy” and stay up in your head, think about it you know the feeling, yup I was doing that. Focusing too much on our to-do list #renolife and not as much on personal care!

Have you heard of Symphony of the Cells? It’s a genius book of oil protocols to support various systems in your body! I pulled up the protocol that I felt would best support my body and gathered the 10 oils for my husband to apply to my back.

I woke the next morning feeling already SO much better! That “chill” I was beginning to feel in my spine, now gone. My nose not near as stuffed up! My throat not as scratchy!

A couple weeks ago I came home one evening with our boy from hockey and walked into the most delicious smell. I knew my husband had the diffuser going but I was unsure which oils… that evening he used Blue Tansy, Ylang Ylang and Siberian Fir. WOW! His exact words to me… we need to use our oil more, and not just the ones we naturally go to.

See the ones we naturally go to are citrus, some mints and grounding. Which are all awesome, but we legit have a wall of oils and every single one has unique properties!

His statement reminded me the other night to pull out the Symphony protocols and damn am I glad we did!

Yesterday, we had planned on doing more reno work but things kind of went sideways. That has been one of our biggest life lessons. Just because you plan something, doesnt mean that’s how its going down lol! Which used to upset me a great deal, but its life and we have learned everything in Divine timing, what’s meant to be will be and sometimes these delays are what needs to happen. Yesterday, our delay allowed me time, time to legit lay on the couch or in bed with my blankets and oils and take care of me. It was awesome!

I’ve been appreciating and using the oils so much more these past few days and am feeling on top of these germs that invaded my body while in the city lol! As much as it sucks feeling sick, I wasnt listening very well to my body. I was staying up too late, allowing the adrenaline and excitement carry me, which FYI that isnt sustainable!

What I have also learned is that our physical health is directly tied to our emotional health.

Louise Hay was amazing, her book You Can Heal Yourself has been a true gift. See what it says beside Respiratory Ailments… “Fear of taking in life fully…” with an affirmation of “I am safe. I love my life”. Well it’s so true. In this next step of #renolife we have had alot of factors that needed to come together in due time. I can admit one of my weaknesses, which is also my growth opportunity is my fear of the unknown. Which then can propel worrying etc… all completely unnecessary.

I began to take care of myself better Wednesday night, Thursday and by Friday guess what was flowing again… yup no word of a lie! When we trust in Divine timing, when we take care of ourselves, when we focus on us, ourselves by being real and authentic everything that’s meant to be, will be.

Amist all of this I’ve been supporting my digestive health in a completely new way. It’s been almost 3 weeks now and I’m so proud of myself. I will share more on this later, as it is a process but one I am thankful I pushed my “fear of the unknown” aside and jumped in!

Yes, body, you got my attention! You are so smart and I am thankful because it was the shake up I needed to get my head back in the game and going with the flow again!

The Candy Hangover!

Another Halloween has come and gone. I’m sure we aren’t the only parents who watch what their kids eat, including the candy they get at Halloween!

We had some ah-ha moments in our home this past week that I wanted to share.

We do let our kids enjoy Halloween and their candy… and use this as an opportunity to educate. I can admit I used to come at them in a much more authoritarian manner. Being a mom of two kiddos who are less than 18 months apart, this was the norm for many years, and well just having young kids, you, as the parents make the majority of the decisions for your kids. As they get older however it’s so empowering for the kids to be educated on WHY we choose this and that, and if they experience something negative it’s the perfect opportunity to grow and learn. Right, because we are all, always learning!

So our ah-ha moments this week that really made me feel like a rock star parent…

Last weekend, after a slightly crazy week with hockey, our boy also had a hockey tournament. During the week (last week and this) he was responsible for making something healthy for his dinner before his games due to timing and let’s face it at 13 there is alot he can make himself. On the weekend however, he and my husband were away at his hockey tournament, which also meant staying at a hotel and eating out. When the boys came home and we were all chatting about the weekend, our son made a comment about how he could FEEL that they ate out alot and ate alot of different food… take out pizza, take out burgers and fries, chips etc.

Of course as his, much more health conscious mom, then pointed out to him, he was being very conscious and aware about how he was feeling after being away and eating out, getting less sleep etc so I made sure to honor that feeling he was having.

Last night, the day after Halloween, the kids obviously enjoyed some treats. Our girl, bless her, went trick or treating for both of them! Our boy had a hockey game, which kudos to his coaches for giving the players some treats, that was really awesome. When he got home, she had everything divided up in what she likes and what he likes, and it legit was divided up that way, not just stuff she didn’t like. When we went to family’s homes (who knew the boy was playing hockey) and they told her to take some for him, she purposely picked what she knows he likes.

As the kids get older I want them to be aware of their actions, which also includes indulging in things that might not be the best for them, but honestly guys it doesn’t happen much. I’m so much more now about empowering them, you make this decision and this could be the result or the options for dealing. I’m also all about setting an example and learning from that. I’m not perfect, ahem no one is. I’ve had health challenges I’ve been very upfront with and do not hide, it’s my life. I use this as a learning experience for the kids as well. I have no problem admitting to them if I made a bad choice and thus paid the consequences of that bad choice, for me its been typically food choices, which up until October I was still being slightly ignorant myself about. I shared with them how I was choosing to eliminate some foods from my diet to help me learn what is best for me and what I should avoid, more on that later!

Enter in candy hang over… for the past 5 years we have shifted our family’s health in a holistic direction. So we always have had our holistic options as an option for soothing this “candy hangover”! Yesterday morning before the kids went to school I made sure they not only took their vitamins but also their probiotics. Its SO important to get healthy bacteria in the guts and we have noticed many positive shifts when we do this!

We also oil the kids everyday, I’m honestly SO much better at my kids oil routine than my own! 🙈 Yup I can admit it, it seems more challenging to get myself in routines BUT I’m working through that and have already mastered the daily supplements! 😉 Oiling everyday helps boost their immune system, help keep them grounded and also supports healthy sleep! Win win for the kiddos and win win for the parents when our kids can name how they are feeling and walk up to our oil rack and support their bodies.

This was our experience last night. After returning home from the arena, our sweet girl was experiencing a candy hangover… headache and all! She knew the first steps were water and oils to help hydrate and boost her immune system… and that’s exactly what she did before having a warm shower and going to bed!

Being a parent isn’t always easy, but you know what this feels good! To know that you are empowering the next generation to not only be mindful of mother earth and the products they are using but to LISTEN TO THEIR OWN BODIES! Its huge!

Today, I know the candy hangover could continue so we will continue supporting with water, our oils, pro-biotics, vitamins and getting some healthy food options out and easily accessible for them! The more we have these things in the house as options, the better choices we will all make!

Educate VS Mandate! ✌

Kudos to their dad for capturing this before leaving early for his hockey game on Halloween! Being the oily photographer he understood how much having this photo meant to me!😘 Feeling slightly sentimental on how big they are but also feeling like a rock star proud mom! Cause guys no one is perfect and the more we embrace this life and just be… the happier we will BE! 💕

But…HOW Did You Loose…

If there had to be one thing that really stood out from Power of Success its ENERGY!

Everything is energy and if you want to shift your life, you have to shift your energy in your soul!

This is one thing I have personally learned while taking control of my health! I am mastering my health and life one day at a time by honestly listening to my body, listening to my soul and trusting myself.

I have had alot of people lately asking me about my health. Asking the HOW… how did you lose the weight…

First let me start with, that’s NOT what I focused on at all! To be honest I knew deep down I could love my body, but I didn’t truly believe I could “lose the weight”. I had tried for years and the truth of the matter was, I wasn’t listening to ME!

I knew very clearly that my goal was not “to get skinny”. My goal was to be healthy, to have energy, to enjoy life!

So HOW did I loose weight…

  • Be conscious in your day to day life. Its SO damn easy to get on the hamster wheel and just go, go go.🤯 But that’s not living. That’s simply going through the daily motions of life. Be purposeful. 🥰
  • Make healthy choices. ✌When I decided it was time for a shift I went all in. I committed. No more buying boxes of chicken fingers to have in the freezer “just in case”. It was time to begin properly planning (which yes takes self discipline) food and being responsible. You know what, the healthier you eat, the better you feel, the more full you feel and honestly… you end up eating less because you feel more satisfied when you eat real food!!! Seriously!
  • Drink more water. 💦 That’s a fricken given. Just drink more water and less sugary crap! Our bodies are vastly made up of water, if you feel thirsty, you are actually already dehydrated! 😬
  • Do the work. 👊 And I actually don’t mean working out. Deal with shit in your past. Heal your energy. Research Reiki and Meditation. Its amazingly powerful and honestly I know both helped me shift energy is a massive way on my body to assist me in living my best and healthiest life. Right before I made this decision I completed my Reiki 1 course and can I just say how much not only I, but also my entire family loves the Reiki energy! I took the leap and have invested in myself with personal development courses, personal one on one coaching and have been grateful for every dollar spent! I’m a huge advocate of counselling, which honestly personal one on one coaching is honestly in my opinion that next step up because it also included energy work along with the coaching! Put any and all judgment or misconceptions aside, if someone judges you for investing in yourself with time or money… they have their own massive pile of shit to deal with #truthbomb. What you do not deal with, continues following you. One thing that really stood out hearing John Gray speak about relationships is that it may feel like the only option is to give up (on your health, marriage, friendships, job, school etc), whatever it is, but what good does that do? You simply keep running from the shit in your past you need to deal with and that “shit” for everyone is different. I can admit after experiencing major health challenges at only 23, including infertility and then being blessed with 2 babes in less than 18 months, my own self confidence took an even further nose dive and so did our marriage. Living a healthy conscious life honest to God was one of the best “fixes”! Its far to common seeing people just give up, because they don’t want to do the work. Do the freaking work whatever that means in your life.
  • Take the vitamins, minerals, omegas and supplements YOUR body needs. We simply do not get enough nutrition in our food, sadly. I know my supplements I take have contributed to my health success!
  • Move your body! If I can be honest though… that first year when the weight began melting off, it wasn’t because I was working my ass off in a gym. Other than gaining more energy and simply doing more at home, I did not work out. Nope. That was not my focus. It also wasn’t my focus because let’s be honest make shifts in your life that work for you and bring you peace. If something is going to stress you out, is it worth it? I added in exercise, yoga actually, the following year and literally watched myself gain some amazing strength and self confidence for this amazing body of mine.
  • Reduce the toxins in your home. This for us was huge! Having endocrine invisible illnesses means my health (and let’s be real EVERYONE’S health) are affected by endocrine disruptors which are in so many products commercially sold today. Ditch them! Ditch the toxins and chemicals. We went the holistic route, and yes before you ask… we were judged big time! But I didn’t stop. I knew in my heart and soul this was what we needed to do. Everything from shampoo, conditioner, soap (body, dishes, laundry…), cleaners – this one is huge, health products – headaches, cold, flu and so much more, deodorant.
  • Read the labels! Reduce dues and colours, sugar, salt, ingredients you can barely pronounce…All of this shit honestly affects our mental health and Inpersonally believe is a major contributor in why so many people are struggling. Think of all the “cheap” food you can buy… and guys for the love of God do NOT buy that cheap food from the dollar store 😬 Yikes!
  • Be a real example for your kids. I’m a big advocate that no one is perfect, cause we aren’t. When you fall down – get back up. Mistakes are only a waste if you do not learn from them. My kids have called me out on bad choices, and I used to think they shouldn’t see me fail that I had to be perfect, that was pure bullshit. Haha apparently the potty mouth real version of me is doing the writing today. Let your kids see that mistakes are learning opportunities, cause they are. Our past does not define us, like I used to believe. For many of us our past includes things we aren’t proud of or even some form of abuse, emotional or physical. Rise above. This will show your children it’s ok to rise up, its ok to make a mistake and learn, we are always growing and learning. If you aren’t, you honestly aren’t living. Yup I still remind myself of this all the freaking time.
  • Educate yourself on the real correlation between how what we feel emotionally is directly tied to how we are feeling physically. Which also goes back to…do the work and deal with your shit 🤣

The reality of my HOW is there is NO quick fix. There is nothing you can drink, a pill you can take to magically change your life without shifting your entire life and doing the work!

Yes I was blessed with incredible success with my health, that still to this day is improving each and every day. Because I do the work. I choose healthy. I choose to indulge but am much more smarter about it. I still enjoy my wine. All in moderation. I still enjoy chocolate, when I am smart about it, it’s dark and in small amounts. However if I do indulge in milk chocolate (and instantly honestly feel the massive sugar rush) I dont beat myself up, I admit if I feel shitty, support my body with what I need and love forward.

Honestly, if I can do this, anyone can! I am approaching the 50lbs lost mark since January 2017. I’ve lost well over 45″, I honestly haven’t measured in a while. I feel SO good! The best part… I truly love my body. 💗

It’s been over 5 years since we introduced the holistic lifestyle to our household and family and almost 3 years since my massive health shift which impacted my weight. I feel so much healthier, I have more energy, I am living my best life and loving where our life has taken us. I am so proud of us, because I can’t just say this was all me. My husband and kids have been my biggest support system and have embraced this lifestyle with me. For that and them, I am so grateful!

Power of Success

I was I was blessed to spend the day yesterday with not only a very good friend but with some very inspirational people.

Enjoyed an awesome day this past week at #PowerOfSuccess! It was such a awesome, inspiring day!

Some of my absolute favs were…

John Gray, the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

He spoke about how living in love, first with ourselves, our partner, family, friends and life in general is so important and crucial for living a happy life. How our hormones and stress affect every single relationship in our life. If you arent living in love, you are living in fear.

• Love truly makes the world go round. If you arent living in love you are living in fear.
• Men and women balance each other.
• How our hormones and stress affects our relationships.
• When it gets tough, that’s not when you give up
• Its OK to ask for help, people pay for counselling and it helps so many
• Love makes the world go round
• Understand our differences and support each other
• Relationships are not 50/50… they are 100/100!


How you change is how you succeed
–JT Foxx

How you sell is how you succeed

1. Persistence … never quit
2. Work ethic eliminates fear
3. Commitment – pride ego and attitude
Loyalty is the most important business skill
4. Attitude

Stay away from negative people …



Age is only a number

If you say no your life stays the same if you say yes, your life changes

Molly Bloom, @immollybloom, with an incredible story and movie that is now on my to watch list!

Gary John Bishop – Author of Unfuck Yourself
@garyjohnbishop who wrote #unfuckyourself about living an authentic life.

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It doesn’t have to be hard!

Honestly, Life in general doesn’t have to be hard. Yet why do we sometimes make it out to be… so hard!

It all comes with adjustments.

Today’s Daily OM Read was an interesting read and reflection… Controlling Behaviour – People who want to control others are, at the core, consumed with their own fears and projecting them onto others.

This can apply to us as individuals, parents, co-workers, friends etc… going right along with – It doesn’t have to be hard!

I can admit, I am a very futuristic thinker, its one of my top 5 strengths  – actually its my top strength! Its an incredible strength to have. But I have found, being more in tune with myself, having this as my dominant trait can also add excess anxiety to my life, sometimes without me even realizing until I feel it heightened.

It doesn’t have to be hard – anything in life. There are however adjustments. In reading the article I mentioned above, one thing that came to mind was how when the kids were younger and we did everything for them, including picking out their clothes (to buy and wear). As our kids have gotten older, their personalities have shone through and we guide them, but we do not just buy things for that we do not know they would like/wear. We let them have some freedom – with guidelines – of what clothes to get/wear. If I wanted to have all the control and tell them no you are wearing this or that, it just overall for everyone would not be a good experience. A small example of control and life being hard.

There are moments I literally just say to myself, what is the next step. Renovating has helped me with this. This past weekend we got a lot accomplished outside which felt really amazing to get done. Then coming inside, I thought of all that we didn’t get done and I could feel myself getting anxious… because of the pure thought!

Our minds are SO powerful.

I then simply said to myself, ‘it’s not hard – one step at a time we will get there’, and instantly felt better. Life isn’t a race, life isn’t meant to be hard, its meant to flow with ease and grace. Even the tough times. Its meant to flow at your pace, on your time. Always in divine timing.

As I Dive Into Super Attractor

Gabby’s newest book arrived the other day ON launch day…the day before my husband and I celebrated 15 years married!!! Today is the day I am actually able to dive into this book and I couldn’t be more excited!

The first book I read of Gabby’s was “The Universe Has Your Back” last year. First time in years I read a complete book front to back… that was also life changing! You are either constantly growing or you are dying. Quite simple. Honor your truth and authenticity ➡️ own your life, however your cards have been dealt! So powerful and admirable! Let’s be real, everyone has faced challenges in our lives (if someone says they haven’t or their life is perfect… they are in denial!). Face the challenges, face the demons, stop the bitching and complaining. Rise up! Running (avoiding) will only magnify what you try to suppress! I am thankful for my journey as an individual and as both a wife and mom! When we all choose to live a more conscious, authentic, real life, those around us will either begin to rise up as well, or begin to fade away.

Celebrating 15 years married has been a very proud accomplishment for us! I used to be the person who thought you needed to portray this perfect, wonderful life. Um hello… as I mentioned above NO ONE is perfect. We have all had challenges, roadblocks, heartache and lows. Every single one of us. If you think you haven’t or that you are perfect or that you need to ‘do it all’… you’ve got work to do on YOU! The absolute only person we have control over, is ourselves. It is our job as individuals to rise ourselves up. To reach down, to the depths of what may feel like hell and figure our shit out. To live authentically, in truth. Stop bitching and complaining and start taking action on your own life. If you aren’t yet loving and living in truth, which um you will know if you are or aren’t, what is YOUR truth?!

In 15 years of marriage I have learned its SO healthy to admit defeat in the times you need to, to ask for help, to be ok with not being able to do it all – this was tough as we transitioned from individuals to a couple but then the biggest was when we transitioned to parents. To find a balance, that truly is ever changing. One day I might balance out my husband, the next day he may balance me out and moreso lately in our life we balance each other equally. As the children get older I feel I have given myself permission to spend more time (and money) on me. This has meant investing in personal coaching (totally worth it by the way), healthy lifestyle of healthy eating, taking my vitamins and supplements, drinking lots of water, reading and expanding my mind, honoring my body when I need rest and sleep, letting gossip die when it reaches me and just overall being grateful and positive and living authentically in truth.

We continue to grow and I am thankful for that. This past year has been incredible and continues to do so. As I have chosen to grow, my family has been a huge support AND they have grown with me. This has included facing some challenges to rise up themselves, but we have and are doing it as a family. I am SO incredibly proud of them and am excited to see where our journey takes us!

September has been a good month, filled with love, happiness, happy tears, growth and change. I’m excited to see what the rest of the year brings and many many more years to come…

Feeling so grateful this morning as I enjoy a laid back morning in bed, the rest of my household enjoys a sleepin and I… oil up and dive into some @GabbyBernstein words of wisdom and love! 🙌💞

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The Power of Pause

When life gets “busy” its incredible the power in pausing, even if just for 5 minutes.

This time of year, although is the time of year I crave – the beautiful colours, warm days, cool nights, layers and cozy sweaters or blankets… lets be real for parents of young kids and teens. This time of year is also back to school, back to hockey, back to skating and whatever else is going on.

This time of year can feel overwhelming and slightly stressful, after having a fairly laid back, go with the flow summer.

Ive quite honestly been feeling the overwhelm and stress, albeit creeping in slightly, but its there and I knew it was there when literally the pain in my neck would not dissipate. Even after visiting the chiropractor a few times. I had to go deeper. I knew this after my last visit, when the neck crack that I was so eager to hear… did not happen.

My body, my soul craves calm, serene, peace, quiet, organization when life gets “busy”. This past weekend we honored our responsibilities to ‘get shit done at home’. Hey Im being real. As much as we wanted to be elsewhere to enjoy the gorgeous sunshine and warm weather, we knew the weekend spent home tending to our torn up backyard, having long slow mornings relaxing in bed (or the couch for the kids) was exactly what we had to do and my soul is beginning to feel the power of pause.

Saturday morning we legit laid in bed until 10am. Something we haven’t done in a very long time. I read… I READ! Not just one of my fav power and personal development books either. You know the kind you can literally jump in and out of when time permits, that no matter where you jump in and out you always find a juicy tidbit of information to welcome into your life or change your perspective even just the slightest, always rising, right! No this is a book I was given for my birthday, that when I looked at it I wanted to get into it, I wanted it to be a book that would take my mind away and expand. Its done just that.

Last night after work the first thing I did after having a quick catch up with the kids was retreat to my office to meditate and stretch out my back and neck. 20 minutes later after listening to a beautiful throat clearing chakra (to help with the neck pain) I could feel more renewed, the pain was legit lessening, like after being at the chiropractor, or using deep blue and massage. I slowed my mind and body down, allowed myself to rest and recharge. My husband and children respected that. I journaled before bed and released anything that I was “holding” onto. I welcome the unknown.

Renovating is challenging. I had someone comment to me not long ago, ‘then why? why not just build’. I know I would feel the same stress, whether we are living amongst it or not, its something that I find challenging BUT its also something that has brought us closer as a family and also pushed us to grow. I love our home, I love what we are creating in our home, the process is purely magic. The before, after incredible. Its teaching me a lot. Embrace, feel the emotions and continue moving forward. Hearing some mentors speaking of the fall equinox I pulled out my journal before bed, released anything on my heart, allowed myself to be open to receive and set my intentions, which also included a beautiful nights sleep.

This morning I woke with my first alarm. Realizing I had slept all night, completely. Im sure my diffuser blend of Petitgrain and Laurel Leaf also helped along with my kids blends of Brave, Stronger, Steady and Rescuer that I also applied before getting into bed. Rather than tossing and turning to try and get more sleep, I turned on my lamp and pulled out my book. The same book that I was given for my birthday and that I initially was having a hard time getting into as it went from 1941 to 2019 back and forth in the story line. However this morning I woke wondering what was going to come next for Ines and dove into the book. My 2nd alarm went off and I snoozed it. I was that into my book. This quarter is off to a great start, my only slight regret… when my first alarm went off at 5:55am I should have showered then, rather than diving into my book and then my morning being slightly delayed, which lets be honest has an effect on everyone within my house. Regardless if I felt rushed after my time reading, it felt SO good to dive in and expand my mind. A ritual that I appreciate and want to continue.

The power of pause from the “real” world. From any real life overwhelm or worry to allow myself to pause and simply enjoy the story line. Like life, sometimes we just need to pause, to not think too far ahead and just think of the next step. Thats what the power of pause helps me to do. Stop over thinking, stop thinking to far ahead, as someone who is a very strong futuristic, this can sometimes be taxing on me energetically.

All in divine timing!

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Artist & Intuitive | Pamela Zmija

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