Moments and dates in life are important to me. Even ones that are filled with heart ache. Two years ago on June 23 we woke to our newly finished basement flooding with water! I am truly grateful that the damage was minimal – meaning it wasn’t the entire depth of the basement and was water not sewage – thank god!
However it was devastating and hit me very hard. So why remember this date? Because its where our family re-grew from. There are lots of moments in life that challenge us, sometimes to the point where we think there is no return, but we rise up to who we need to be and do what we need to do. Sometimes challenges hit us in life to wake us up, to shift the path we are on, to help someone else and when you are enthralled in the moment its even more challenging to look beyond or think ahead.
So there is an opportunity for growth. If anyone tells you that life is perfect, they are lying. Maybe they choose not to be vulnerable and keep their life private, that’s their personal choice. They could also choose not to focus on the negative and rather rise up to what is positive in their life. That is real. The reality is shit happens and how we choose to deal with it will help direct our new path in life, how we will grow from it!
2 years ago this became a real struggle for me. However much like the other challenges Ive faced in my life, I kept trucking through. I honored when I needed to rest and literally do nothing, I honored when my husband needed to do the same. I celebrate and remember today especially because we have literally come full circle and I am so proud of us – all of us – myself, my husband, both our children and our pets. I am proud of us of how we have banded together with understanding and love.
After we completed the basement in March 2017, we got right into doing the kitchen, dining and living room. When the basement flooded my husband had just taken down the plastic tents from removing the popcorn ceiling and just the weekend before, my husband finished installing all the flooring. Thankfully those steps were completed. I am so grateful for that. At the time the old kitchen was very minimal, we had no furniture – literally because we got rid of our old stuff from downstairs and moved he upstairs furniture downstairs – which made the reno’s easier on the main floor and then the basement flooded LOL.
It actually is funny. Seriously if I didn’t laugh I would cry – alot! We were literally starting over with most of our belongings in the basement, which also had more things due to the upstairs reno. It was devastating but then it hit me.
This was the 3rd home we moved to. Much like our previous two homes we knew we wanted to put our touch on it. However we had accumulated a lot of stuff over the years. I am a very sensitive and caring person, so if we or our children were given something I had a very challenging time letting it go. Not to the point of hoarding, however we had a lot of “stuff” that was needing to find a new home. Yes I would have preferred donating it or even having a garage sale, however this literally forced me to offer up the control. I literally had no control over this situation whatsoever. Which was very challenging for me. I was forced to give up all our “stuff” – even some of the sentimental things.
Our family learned how powerful it is to hold value in the moment and memories vs the “stuff” because the “stuff” can be taken from you just like that!
I am proud of us because we have literally come full circle from that day! The basement was completely re-done again and our main floor is all complete giving us the opportunity to now create our own master oasis!
Sometimes we don’t really know we are sabotaging our life until we feel it physically and emotionally. This may sound harsh when you are about to read how I sabotaged my life this week, however it is what it is and for me this is real.
This past weekend I indulged in black Tim Hortons coffee. I have not drank coffee in years,, let alone timmies which can make me vibrate! Granted I used to drink it all the time. It was available to me, so I thought why not Im being active this weekend it will “help me get things done”…
So in truth, its a life lesson. My sleep had been awful most of the week. The restless legs began Saturday night, thankfully my Balance and AromaTouch oils helped me to be able to get to sleep and actually sleep peacefully. However since Sunday night my body has been messed up and this mama has not been sleeping well!
Add in my negligence of topping up my thyroid roller bottle. Even as I write this I think to myself… It literally took 5 minutes to top the roller bottle up. Actually less than 5 min and get it on my neck. I received lots of signs this weekend that I was NEEDING it… I was freezing cold all the time, my throat became scratchy – almost like ‘hello pay attention to this area of your body’, my digestive system slowed and I just feel like BLAH!
The true kicker… I had my body at a point where I didn’t need my blend everyday. However I pushed my limits. So a combination of self sabotage has had me not sleeping great, feeling blah and just totally off. That morning I finally “got it” and refilled my thyroid blend.
Its so true that in life you can be trucking along, feeling great, going with the flow and miss a couple key factors which can have you side lined momentarily. As crappy as I do feel, lack of sleep and my thyroid blend, does that to me – I know this. I KNOW this… yet I allowed myself to do this to me.
Time to rise back up, get back on track with purpose. I got my thyroid blend on Wednesday morning and already the scratchiness was subsiding. I knew it was this when Ive been taking On Guard+ the past couple days and took some TriEase in the middle of the night – to help with the scratchiness. Nope what my body wanted and needed was my thyroid blend. Ok listening loud and clear now!
Much like my previous post the other day, one step forward. Monday we came one more step forward for our laundry mud room being complete. I am so eager to get it finished, but patience and allowing my body and mind the time it needs to rest – which its clearly forcing on me now!
To help me get on track that day, I pulled some cards. That morning I chose the 5 card spread…
Situation – Believe – “In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can” Nikos Kazantzakis Believe in yourself and know that you can create anything you wish, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Believe in your dreams and realize the potential of your own divine power. Trust your inner guidance – as it is directing you to a promising new truth, one that places you into alignment with spirit. I believe in me. I know that what sustains me is the power of cosmic consciousness. I am endowed with intelligent knowledge, intuition and absolute truth. “I believe in the wonders of life”
Challenge – Abundance – “Accumulate the wealth of wisdom acquired through God realization”. “He is wisest who seeks God. He is the most successful who has found God.” Paramahansa Yogananda . Abundance is measured by the extent to which your inner peace and mental control enable you to be happy in all circumstances. Bring peace into every moment of your life. What does Abundance feel like to me? I am one with Spirit. I am abundance.
Guidance – Beauty – “Your true nature is reflected from your soul” “When the mind is calm, how quickly, how smoothly, how beautifully you will perceive everything” Paramahansa Yogananda – Swan Spirit – See the inner truth within yourself and others regardless of outer appearances. Recognize your beauty inside and out. Identify and accept the loveliness found in every characteristic that makes up who you are, for only you possess them. Remember and celebrate the beauty that you are! “The beauty that radiates with me spreads throughout the universe.”
Intention – Acceptance – “Embrace and be at peace with everything in your life” – “The good or bad is not in the circumstance, but only in the mind of him that encounters it” James Allen . Spirit of Deer – I have come to remind you to be gentle with yourself. Love and accept the wholeness of who you are in this very moment – for you are beautiful! What if you could completely embrace every situation and every experience by knowing that you have created all of it for your own personal growth? Allow this transmission to transform all perceived obstacles into precious opportunities. Love every moment. Welcome the unexpected and dance with delight in this dream called life. “I embrace and accept everyone and myself. I think every situation in my life.”
Outcome – Adventure “ Living a life filled with wonder and excitement” – “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams” Oprah Winfrey . This is your life. You have a golden opportunity, right here, right now to create it anyway you wish. Dare to dream big, by listening to the language of your heart. Open the eyes of your heart to see this wonderful world full of beauty, charm and adventure. You are living an archetypal story filled with emotional content, mystery, magic, contradiction and conflicts that seemingly appear as a paradox. Remember that you are the dreamer, dreaming this dream called life. Welcome the perfection of all that is and you will come to understand that all of life is nothing more than a passing phase. Come to understand that each phase is born out of the dream creation of Cosmic Consciousness and realize that you are here on earth to have fun. Feel the excitement and awe of life, instead of fear and doubt of not knowing the future. Let go of any attachments to outcomes and you will welcome the gifts being granted to you in each and every moment. Everything you receive from the material world is going to teach you something along the way to make you a healthier and happier being. Adventure is ot outside of you, but within you. The very basic core of your being as living vibrating spirit has an innate passion for adventure. Wake up in the morning and welcome every experience you receive as part of this ever-unfolding happening dream. Be excited about life, because in essence you are a radiant light-being here to express in this grand adventure called life. This is your moment to shine! “I welcome the magic and mystery of life”.
Wednesday I knew I had my BUTI Yoga class but to be completely honest I was thinking of any excuse I could think of… but I went, I felt great, oiled up all day and before bed and it was exactly what I needed! That night I slept great and woke up feeling amazing!
The other interesting piece of info is I recognized how the caffeine affected me, it’s also something that is advised to limit or avoid for empaths! I picked up a new book last weekend from the Mystic Crystal shop, The Empath’s Survival Guide by Judith Orloff MD is a wealth of information and I am just into the book in chapter 3!
What is interesting is I had also been lacking on my meditation practice. My husband was the one who suggested I do some meditating to help balance. I chose Gabby Bernstein’s Journal Meditation and it was awesome! Beautiful way to re-start and re-connect 💖!
Renovations have been our life for the past 4 years. 15 actually if you count back to our 1st house!
It’s so much more than just changing the flooring or painting the walls.
I put my entire heart and soul into what we are doing. Once we lock a design/change in and I can visualize it, I want it done now.
Renovations have taught me how to be patient. How sometimes things get messy, like really messy and you don’t know if you can do it anymore – but you can and you do. Just like life. Renovations to a house is so much like life in general. It can get really really messy, but out of that mess comes a beautiful message!
I tend to always be thinking one step forward, which would actually feel like 10 steps back for me. One of my strongest strengths is Futuristic. I can look ahead and see things falling into place or how it “should”. I’ve learned the power of slowing your mind and enjoying quiet. To enjoy the process – because lets be real, when you plan something – well when we have it never goes exactly to plan – but many times that is such a blessing! To know and trust that everything happens in Divine timing.
So many obstacles we faced over the years married with children, daily life, work… the house & renovations!
Our whole home renovations are coming to near completion. The main part of the house, the family areas, the kids areas etc are all complete and “US”. It was really important to us to make this home ours and not try to fit into someone else’s life. It’s been freeing for all of us. Its pushed us to grow. Patience truly is a virtue.
Today we came one step closer to our laundry / mud room to being complete which completes the existing home’s layout, it’s not just all new – its US!!!
We are now gently taking one step forward again as we complete our vision and finish our dream home with something special for us – husband and wife/mom and dad! For our years of hard work and dedication, love, forgiveness and patience. The excitement far outweighs the fear of taking that “one step forward”. Because then you are committed, there is no going back. Its thrilling and so exciting and then the excitement wears off, the stress, over thinking and worrying comes out. The pressure of ‘just getting it done’ pushes on me real hard and I lose the enjoyment of the process. A process of gentle reminders, to strive for progress not perfection, that one day (soon) it will all be done and all be US!
Tonight we are one step closer to being complete, I truly celebrate no more disruption for our kids. Routines that can be enriched with our final new space and the organization we all crave!
Now that the rest of the house is complete, us, comfortable for the kids, its time for the two of us to create our own special space!
For tonight, as much as I would love to be in that room organizing and shifting things, which have been over crowded during all the renos, for everything to have a purpose and a place.
I came home and knew I needed grounding oils. I put Anchor and Arise in the diffuser and on my wrists. Put the groceries away, tidied the kitchen and now enjoying some downtime.
In divine timing, the laundry mud room will be complete. Our master suite will be underway and some other amazing finishing touches to our home! Feeling very blessed. Grateful for the energy work, meditation, reading, journaling, oils, yoga through this process. As our home shifted to “us” we have all became more at home in our heart and our home! 💗
This blog post is kudos to my daughter. Children are always learning and this weekend proved to be a great life lesson for our girl and us as her family!
During a walk at our family cottage, we walked down to a stream where each year minnows and or tadpoles like to start their life. While looking at the stream our daughter noticed something. She spoke up and said “look its a snake at the edge of the water!!!”. We all, perhaps not wanting it to be true, immediately said no, that can’t be a snake its just a stick. So our son threw a stick into the water near the snake/stick… sure enough the snake began swimming back up the river (thankfully not towards the lake LOL).
Further along on our walk we were headed back to the cottage on the road. A path our kids have been familiar with since they were in diapers and one we enjoy many times a season. As we walked past the stream at the road we could hear the fish trying to swim/jump through the water. Getting down by the stream our son was looking in the water at the fish and said, ‘nope these aren’t trout’. Our daughter piped up and said ‘they are salmon’. Again we all were hesitant, honestly because how would she know what kind of fish they were. We watched the fish for a bit until a woman came out of her cottage, which is near the stream and asked if we (and others walking by) saw the salmon running up the stream…
Monday our daughter was making a cheesecake so we could celebrate Mom’s birthday with the family, she brought up some interesting facts to us. Listing each of these points. I asked her what that meant? She proudly said, “I was right”. Which she was, without a doubt, however I also let her know a much bigger life lesson that had just happened for her… to always trust herself, speak up and speak her mind!
My little girl empath has a very intuitive way of thinking and I just love it and want to completely support her in embracing it as a beautiful part of her personality!
Looking back she could have totally just got down on herself thinking that her words, thoughts, opinion do not matter or are not appreciated – even if she is right. However I am SO thankful she chose to stand up and make it known that she was right and it was completely her gut feeling each time to believe herself!
Kudo’s to you my girl! This just reminds your dad and I that we are doing something right as your parents especially when we encourage you and your brother to follow your heart and speak your mind! <3
I can honestly admit when the kids were younger and asked “why?” all.the.time. It was slightly annoying LOL. However I am SO thankful for children asking why or pushing for what they believe, this is how they learn, this is how their personalities develop and how they begin to trust themselves and their own intuition. Im so proud to be your mama, to both of you! You are going to move mountains :)
Hind sight is 20/20 without a doubt. Life lessons however are the best, most effective way to learn in life. Well, in mine at least.
Music is a wonderful thing, it can pull memories to the surface, sometimes without realizing it. Kind of like the sun shining and then the sky filled with dark clouds. A spark came to me. Any bad memories or sad moments of the past with a person, think of a happy memory. Forgive and let go of the sad or hurtful memories and live and let yourself be free.
I had always thought part of my story was going through infertility and living with pcos but its actually beating infertility, being blessed with two incredible children and becoming a strong confident woman!
Its been (and will continue to be) a fun, interesting, learning, growth experience and I am impressed at how I have allowed myself to be open to growing even more.
Yesterday my husband and I celebrated meeting each other 18 years ago! Such a blessing to think how we have grown together over that time and have created the life we are living. We’ve had a lot of passion and a lot of forgiving, happiness, tears and angry words, laughter and fun. True happy high’s and sorrowful lows. Also the absolute best 18 years of my life. I am truly thankful we have stuck it out with each other this long. Because we have each become a couple of awesome people and I am so thankful for my husband!
Ive learned that any darkness needs a light shone on it to help it heal. You have the ultimate power to change your story, much like Ive chosen to change mine. No longer allowing any focus on any of the negative people or things and realize at least 1 good thing about it or them. Replace that hurtful memory, allow it to be released and free yourself.
I have been enjoying Sarah Prout’s Dear Universe Book Club as well as Gabby Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back Book Club. I really love the positivity. I also just went to my first BUTI Yoga class and wow. I loved it so much – empowering! Ive been wanting to move my body, its been about 6 months since I fell out of that routine. I was nervous, worried what others would think if I couldn’t do it… alot of the head talk, that is pure BS! I did it, loved how it felt and am loving my body more. Love the skin you are in. Be the best person you can be. Everyone else’s opinions are merely that. Live honestly, authentically, successful and happy!
Those negative stories that I thought were the ones that made me me, I completely missed the point, until now. What was the lesson with everything and everyone? How have I grown because I knew them or had the experience. I thought I knew this, I really did, I thought I was believing it, but I don’t think I was.
My girl and I had an outing together the other day, so I grabbed one of my doTERRA backpacks to throw my camera in (I was also going to check out a new-to-me camera lens!). When I opened the backpack to put my phone in… I found my beloved @doterra ONE blend! Mmmm this blend is INCREDIBLE!
This blend is also super close to my heart and soul. It was the blend they specifically crafted for the 2016 Convention Gala. My first ever convention and gala experience. It’s funny we have 3 @doterraca backpacks and I was specifically looking for this blend on our wall rack just a couple days before I found it (again 😂)! I’ve been using this blend for the last few days and it’s like a great big deep, satisfied, filled with happiness and love sigh! Oh my it’s fantastic! Grounding, calming and just so fresh and yummy!
So… I had to craft a blend for the diffuser. Here is what I came up with and it’s currently filling our house with all the oily goodness that ONE is!
💛Ylang Ylang is the oil of the inner child and it is uplifting but also calming.
💛Frankincense is the oil of truth and is very grounding.
💛Vetiver is the oil of centering and decent. It is calming and grounding to emotions and the mind.
💛Douglas Fir is the oil of generational wisdom. This oil is so fresh smelling, ita cleansing and purifies.
💛Cardamom is the oil of objectivity. This blend is refreshing and supporting to our respiratory system.
💛Melissa is the oil of light. It is calming to tension and your nerves.
From my experience, this is an amazing blend for your brain and mental health as well!
Save this recipe for later. I promise you will love it! 🙌😍
Remember when we used to have actual seasons… I do from my childhood. Winter was winter, all winter without multiple spring breaks and spring was spring, summer was summer and fall well you get the point. Not to be a debbie downer on this frigid cold Saturday morning, but I will be real for a moment… our weather is changing due to things WE as humans CHOOSE to do. You may think, well I’m just one person, or in our family we are “just 4 people”. EVERYONE can make a difference. Choose Clean products… yes even if they “cost” more. Really what amount can you put on your health and life?! Choose to be conscious of your driving habits, the water you use, the products you buy – why are vegetables and fruits now packaged in SO much plastic?! I maybe wont be here in 100 years to enjoy this planet but someone from my family will be. Yes even you as 1 person 🙋♀️ CAN make a difference! First step is choosing 2nd step is ignoring the naysayers, 3rd step is just following through everyday making conscious healthy choices for you and your family!
Side note… what I find interesting is the government is saying they are big on climate change and carbon tax etc… did you know it’s also the government who allows companies to use these toxins in our day to day life?! Many products allowed here in Canada and the US are banned in the UK…
Waking up this morning to another crazy weather change reminds me the importance of making healthy, educated, conscious choices – which yes sometimes requires a wee bit more work, like not buying everything at the grocery store. Making an additional stop to buy from the local butcher or ordering clean health and beauty products with ingredients I can trust and that are healthy for my body, but it’s worth it. Maybe if we all began realizing how crucial this is to living our best life we could all have an impact on this world we are living in!
For those of you who have been here a while and know my PCOS and our ADHD life story… drastically reducing or removing endocrine disruptors from your life is KEY!!!
Buy yourself flowers just because… and to take macro shots of 🤣💐😊
I used to not like buying or getting flowers because they don’t always last long.
I used to think it was a waste of money, because they didn’t last long. I’m big on value and quality.
You know what though… the flowers are worth every single $1 of the $10 dollars they cost me! Priceless when I can pull out my macro lens and create art I love and enjoy!
I create an incredible array of memory photos each winter. Especially the past couple on the sleds! Those times when I don’t have my camera with me, or it would make the trip even longer to stop every 10 minutes 😂!
Bring some nature indoors… it’s amazing how you can instantly feel uplifted and your creativity is sparked!
“It is not the critic who counts. Not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit actually belongs to the man who is ACTUALLY IN THE ARENA. Whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood. Who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming. But who does actually strive to do the deeds who knows great enthusiasms. The great devotions. Who spends himself in a worthy cause who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” – Theodore Roosevelt
Brene Brown’s ‘Call To Courage’ which debuted on Netflix April 19th is an hour and 19 minutes well spent for all ages. She started out quoting Theodore Roosevelt, above. As a shame researcher I learned from Brene that shame is when you are in a room of people you like, you walk out and they say so many horrible things about you that you cannot walk back into that room. Ive experienced that shame. Its very real and very hurtful. Brene validated feelings of shame when the internet is a cesspool of hurtful and shameful people.
I learned from Brene… Be brave and take chances. Vulnerability is having the courage to show up when you have no control. Unless you too are in the arena bettering yourself – I am not interested in your opinion – in general and of me and my life.
Don’t grab the hurtful stuff from the cheap seats – criticism and feedback from people who are not authentic and true to themselves.
We obviously care about what other people think, because we are hardwired to care – however we can be selective of who you care about and surround yourself with people who love you for who you are – no matter what. Show up and be brave.
Rejection, shame and loneliness is how you feel when someone will not connect with you – this is when the story telling begins. We create a story in our head of why or what the other person is thinking. Be real and be honest.
If you want to have more love, joy and happiness in your life you need to allow yourself to be more vulnerable. Let yourself be seen, be vulnerable. Many people think its better to just put up armour to protect. The problem with this is when you put up armour, you feed into a way of negative thinking and being. Where shame, fear, grief and scarcity is born from.
I love how Brene explains that we are hardwired for belonging. The opposite of belonging is “fitting in”, which lets be honest, when you fit in with the crowd you ignore or push aside true parts of you. Belonging is about belonging to yourself first and being who you truly are – which is vulnerable.
Brene talked about how Joy can be the most vulnerable of our emotions. I know Ive felt it, everything can be going along so amazingly well and you begin thinking “uh oh what is going to happen next…” and you loose out on truly enjoying that joy feeling. We loose the joy feeling and allow fear to creep in. With fear we typically then begin to dress rehearse tragedy. We need to lean into gratitude, truly be grateful for what and who we have in our life. Gratitude can also be vulnerable. When we are grateful for someone or something, there is still a chance they could be taken from us (loving someone and losing them). This is how when we are truly grateful, we can also understand loss. Being grateful, is healing.
Cherish the everyday moments. This is one thing I absolutely cherish in my own life. When the kids were young I took countless photos of them just being kids. As they have gotten older, this is one thing I have missed, however they now have new moments to appreciate and capture. There were so many moments on the snowmobile trails this winter that I took a memory photo to remember. Otherwise we would have been stoping every 5 minutes. A bucket list goal of mine to get out with my camera on the trails, safely!
Brene talked about ‘just choosing joy’. Effort and taking a chance. Be open to empathy, trust, innovation, creativity, inclusivity, hard conversations, feed back, problem solving, ethical decision making. If you arent vulnerable there is no creativity.
If you feel very strongly about something, don’t stay quiet. We have a lot of learning to do, at all ages. Also mistakes, navigating blind spots. I loved how she used the term blind spots. It’s so true. We “plan” our lives but then quickly learn that our plans might be a good idea, its going to unfold how it’s meant to, for whatever reason!?
If you expect yourself and others around you to be perfect, there is no room for error or vulnerability, change will not happen. Brene, so simple and brilliant, talk to people, not about them.
One statement that stood out for me, ‘Brave Leaders Are Never Silent Around Hard Things!’
This really stood out to me as I have been very conscious about living and being truly Authentic. This means living in a much higher state of truth than I ever have before and also yes, raising my standards of life.
Brene Brown shared her list of Myths:
Brene’s Myth’s of Vulnerability
1. Vulnerability is weakness
2. I don’t do vulnerability
3. I can go at it alone
4. You can engineer the uncertainty and discomfort out of vulnerability
5. Trust comes before vulnerability
6. Vulnerability is exposure
“Sometimes winning is doing the really brave thing. When you are brave you win all the time”
Seriously check out Brene Brown’s Call To Courage on Netflix!
I really enjoyed watching Brene’s show this morning. It was uplifting, reassuring, heart warming and funny. I had alot of take aways, as you can see above. I totally get her message. She is definitely not saying to air everything you do on social media, especially when it comes to being negative. It’s so easy, and honestly scary, how negative some people can be and how quickly and easily it happens. Social media, as Brene Brown described it as a cesspool of hurtful, shameful people. Its unfortunately sad that there is so many. So it’s really being conscious about reaching up and living with purpose, whatever that is. What lights you up, who do you enjoy being around, what type of people do you want to work with (co-workers and customers). We all can attract in who and what we need.
We’ve been learning alot about being vulnerable within our family and home. Anyone else into renovations?! I can honestly say I would not go back and change a thing. It has taught us SO much. About our beautiful house, ourselves and each other. We have custom designed our home with what we want and need, our desires. However one thing we have learned by being vulnerable is that change is not always easy. It can feel overwhelming and messy, not just renovation messy but house messy. It’s not because I dont want a clean house, I totally do. I’ve learned that renovations pull me into almost of a constant vulnerable state until completion. Everything is shifted around somehow. Which means other places in our home is more cluttered than normal. I am so excited as we approach the end, especially because everything will have a home. We can finished getting organized in a very big way, which is huge for us and convenience and ease for our family is going to sky rocket! I am loving the look and for months have been able to see the vision! To see it coming to life, even better than we had imagined or designed! Its amazing, my friends, how we can grow as people during challenging times! I’m certainly not the same person I was before we started this reno journey and I am grateful for the person I am today. Even more grateful, appreciative, patient, caring, loving, communicative and alot more authentic! Once complete I will be sharing the incredible transformation and what made it so worth my own vulnerability! 😍
I had the absolute pleasure of joining a beautiful friend for a girls night of good food, great wine and inspiring words from the beautifully successful and humble Arlene Dickinson.
An evening of connecting with like minded individuals and hearing her speak of truth, love, sacrifice, growth, abundance and success.
A few things that truly stood out for me last evening…
Arlene spoke of one of her jobs while trying to literally make ends meet, as a bill collector. Something that anyone and everyone with a business will experience at some point in their life. It’s a thankless job much of the time that can really pull even the most positive person down. Arlene explained that there are two types of people in this world…
1. The people who, no matter what, will stay true to their word no matter what it takes. Who live in truth and honesty. Truly authentic people.
2. Then there are the people who just dont care and will never be true to their word.
I’ve personally experienced both in my life, personally and in business. I mentioned a few blog posts back that I had a Male businessman make a comment to me that I “scare him”… because I was doing my job and following up on a payment promise this man had made to me (and already broke). It completely took me aback for a second… until I realized he wasn’t scared of me, he was/is intimidated by me and my strong, articulate, independent, authentic business skills and ethics of when someone gives you their word they should stand by it… Thank you Arlene for reinforcing the power and strength of a woman in business and to never back down to someone who is trying to intimidate and belittle you… always rise above!
Another thing that really stood out for me was when she spoke about her marriage falling apart and her despair of not knowing how to move forward in her life. I cannot remember exactly what she said however it was when she spoke of her Dad when he essentially told her to pick herself up and that there was only 1 person who could change her life… her!
It took me back to a time when my dad said something similar to me, my boyfriend at the time had moved away for “work” and left me alone with all these promises. My dad told me to get up and stop crying over him… of course at that exact moment I was pissed, he didnt understand, how insensitive… BUT it pushed me to get up, to go out and rediscover the life I had literally put on hold and pushed aside for so many years. Honestly, it’s when I got my life back. It has taken years to properly heal and move forward, however it was monumental in my path in life. A path that I did not understand at the time. A path that was meant to be walked to make me into the strong woman and mom I am today and am still growing into every single day.
Follow your heart, be authentic, be you, everyone has a story, support each other, there is more than enough to go around, we can all stand on top of our own mountains! Especially women, not thay long ago life was totally different for women in business.
One of the biggest life lessons I learned last night from Arlene, by listening, was that you must keep moving forward. Bad things will happen, you cannot go back and change it. Every one of us has a story, so be compassionate and authentic to others.
Thank you Arlene for an awesome and inspiring evening. Kudos to you for sharing your story and inspiring all ages in the room!